Finding Happiness the Right Way

In today’s fast-paced world, the concept of happiness is evolving continuously and gaining new definitions.  Happiness is often associated with materialism and luxuries, but contrary to this popular belief, happiness comes from within. In olden times, life was nothing like what it is today. Technology didn’t rule our world, but people lived happy lives. A sudden rain shower in the middle of a hot summer’s day made everyone smile.  People in those days didn’t have luxurious cars; sailing paper boats in puddles during rains made everyone happy. Smiling faces greeted each other which spread happiness and excitement. But, nowadays those smiling faces have gotten lost somewhere. Playgrounds, which used to be places of noise and energy, are now barren areas.   As humans progressed the real meaning of happiness was lost. People are not seeking happiness in the present. They are lost in the distressful events of the past and dependent on the future, thus not making space for present happiness. Osho, Indian god man and leader of the Rajneesh movement said,

Happiness has nothing to do with what you have or don’t have.
Happiness is related to what you are.

Surprisingly, these days people have to be reminded to be happy. Counseling sessions have become a common medium to treat unhappy people who have filled their minds with junk thinking (through newspapers, media, disheartening shows and films, criticism, complaining attitude and distrusting behavior). Our minds become sick at times and that’s when they require treatment.

A recommended doctor to treat this disease of unhappiness is Jaswinder Singh, better known as Just Win Singh. Jaswinder Singh is doing developmental work in the field of counseling and training. His four books on happiness, titled Happiness: Gain and Retain, Happiness: Now and Forever, Happiness: Here and Everywhere and Happiness: Always and in All Ways are boons for people who are lost in misery. Singh’s mantra is to make happiness the habit of one’s life.

just win singh

Just Win Singh is widely recognized for his Institute of Happiness in Vadodara. He runs a course on happiness which is the need of today’s generation. Every year leaflets written by Singh, which are a part of the course material, are posted to people in 92 cities across 18 countries. In India, institutes such as IIT Kharagpur and the Indian School of Business, Hyderabad have started offering this course on happiness. Internationally, this course is most popular at America’s Yale University.

True to his name, Just Win Singh has made many people win happiness. He started with the idea of teaching and spreading happiness after his encounter with a friend who was on the verge of committing suicide at the age of 33. A short meeting and counseling changed the life of the person in 32 days. It made Singh realize that he has been gifted with a talent to tell the truths of life in simple, usable ways. This incident led Singh to open his own institute which got recognition in a very short time. He said, ‘In fact our BE HAPPY Course booklets became an instant hit in India and abroad’. This paved the way for the Happiness series in 2009, as people wanted Just Win Singh to write a book and promote the noble cause. Viva Books became the medium between Singh and the readers who were in dire need of a guide who will escort them to the road of happiness.

Happiness Series

In the series, the first title is Happiness: Gain and Retain.  Singh shares the reason behind people’s misery in it. He sheds light on the causes which make people feel depressed. He states in the initial chapter that, ‘Many of us are unhappy because we never ever bother to feed our mind correctly’. Singh asks the readers to feed their mind with what they should feed their bodies: feed good to bring good.  He disapproves of racing and competition and suggests pacing oneself. He talks about the importance of experiencing rather than running and competing. He broadcasts the idea of reducing the tempo in life as, ‘one must “slow down” and take time to romance his life. One must learn to live in the moment and feel the emotions of all living beings around him’.

Singh directs people to change themselves rather than changing the world. He says the world is nothing but a reflection of our minds. He presents the thought of winning through our minds. To remain cheerful we must have a positive self-image about ourselves, no matter what others may be thinking about us. In his book Singh also ends each chapter on a funny note, either by adding a joke or a story. In fact, in many of his counseling sessions and corporate seminars he interacts with people by joking about problems and making them laugh, as laughter is said to be the best medicine which increases our happiness quotient.

The second title in the series is Happiness: Always and in All Ways. Jaswinder Singh dedicates this book to all the people who take the RESPONSIBILITY of living a HAPPIER LIFE, suggesting that no one can make us happy, we are responsible for our own happiness. The author can only guide us, implementation is our task. Singh posits the view that every individual is responsible for the happiness of one another. For making this universe happy we don’t need to do anything but be the better version of ourselves. Singh elaborates this point through a quotation from a letter written by Albert Einstein,

Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.

Ego and pride are the two fiends which keep us away from the heavenly abode of happiness. Singh asks people to let go of ego and pride because, ‘ego gives you a swollen head while pride gives you a swollen heart’.  Another beast that devours not only our happiness but our mental peace is anger. Singh reflects that anger does not mean we are strong, ‘anger is, in fact, a direct proof of your weakness’.  Through this book he teaches us to live life with laughter, stop being jealous, stop comparing ourselves and live happily.

The next title in the series is Happiness: Here and Everywhere. This book is dedicated to all the DETERMINED people who have DECIDED to be happy, which suggests the view that happiness is not about luck or destiny, it’s a choice. Singh begins the book by telling us about depression. Getting depressed does not mean life is miserable. Depression, as Singh puts it is, ‘when we are expecting life to look a certain way and it does not’. We should stop expecting things from life and from the people around us because life is not always what we imagine in our minds. Singh suggests that instead of expecting, we should take initiative and make things the way we want them to be. He clears his point through an excerpt from Rudyard Kipling’s poem ‘How the Camel Got His Hump’,

The cure for this ill is not to sit still,
Or frowst with a book by the fire;
But to take a large hoe and a shovel also,
And dig till you gently perspire;

In the book, Singh also explains the power of a smile. He asks his readers to smile at people and spread happiness. He also asks us people to stop judging one another, because one of the biggest reasons behind an unhappy person is inferiority complex which comes when people have a judgmental nature. He suggests to us to love each other unconditionally, without any complaints or demands, and carry on with the process of enjoying life.

The last title in the series is Happiness: Now and Forever.  Singh begins this book by starting with the concept of problem. Life without problems is superficial. If there is life, there are problems. Singh views problems as a test to check the strength of a person. He says, ‘The strongest trees are not those most protected but those that must struggle against the elements of weather and wind and surmount them – to survive. Struggling through a tough problem similarly toughens the human spirit’. Singh considers that happiness should be created by oneself through one’s own actions. He guides us to understand our moods and try to limit what is unnecessary. He suggests mastering our habits. Everything emerges from a habit, so we should make happiness our habit and master it. Furthermore, he explains that nothing is perfect. Perfectionism is a trap. He says that, ‘those striving for perfection are just one step ahead of failure’.

Singh ends the series by a chapter on ‘How to have peace of mind.’  He says that peace of mind depends on the gap between our expectations and reality. Reducing this gap will lead us to a happy and prosperous life. Singh asks us to adopt this as our motto of life:  ‘Let there be peace and let it begin with me’.  He closes the series with a poem by the Chinese teacher, politician and philosopher Confucius,

If there is character in the individual,
There will be harmony in the home,
If there is harmony in the home
There will be honor among the people,
There will be justice in the community
If there is justice in the community,
There will be order in the Nation.
If there is order in the Nation,
There will be peace in the World.

We wish you all a very happy life. Don’t only wish on occasions but wish each other every day to live happily. Enjoy each minute of your day.  Win against unhappiness like Just Win Singh.

Buy these books:

Happiness: Gain and Retain: https://bit.ly/2Cig6ld
Happiness: Always and in All Ways:  https://bit.ly/2wzFw7t 
Happiness: Here and Everywhere: https://bit.ly/2wyFM7y
Happiness: Now and Forever: https://bit.ly/2C7oOCy

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Gurleen Sethi is Executive – Marketing with Viva Books. She is a happy-go-lucky person, who believes in enjoying little things in life. Writing is her passion and a great stress buster. 
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